By HILARY KIMUYU
If you found your way to this article, it may be because you’re the type of woman who constantly finds herself trying to “fix” a man, or entering into a relationship with someone who isn’t quite on your level of maturity or emotional stability.
But that’s OK, because you’re going to change him and make him be better. Right?
This is probably because, well, you can’t change someone. You may be their reason to want to change, which is a beautiful thing, but they have to do it themselves.
So, if you’ve found yourself in a pattern like this in the past and are unable to find a happy, healthy relationship because of it, how do you break the cycle?
1. You don’t pay attention to his past.
How a man has lived his life up until the point he met you, is a road taken that you cannot change.
If he has a long history of short-lived negative relationships, perhaps a bad or nonexistent relationship with family, or is always placing the blame on women for failed relationships, then I’m sorry to say, but willingly dating a man like this simply puts you in the middle of his destructive path.
2. You stay away from men who take you out of your comfort zone.
Being comfortable with the person you’re with is, of course, of the utmost importance. But that also depends on what kind of comfort it is.
If you’re the type of woman who’s drawn to the wrong types of men, then familiarity isn’t necessarily a good thing.
If he reminds you of an ex or brings back the same hopeful feelings of being able to help him that you recognize from your past, turn around and walk away.